Who Are You Married To?
A couple weeks ago I was talking with a friend about how hard it is to date as a single mom and be an entrepreneur. I shared with her some of my challenges and she in turn advised me that I shouldn’t try to date right now because I don’t have time. She told me to put that on the back burner and focus on me and my business. She shared with me some of her experiences as a married woman trying to start her own business and how she felt like her business would have been a success had she not been married. That conversation made me think about relationships as a whole and I told her I didn’t believe that it had anything to do with her being married, but everything to do with who she was married to. I advised her that God created us specifically for our mate and that person understands and accepts every part of you, including your vision.
They are able to embrace your vision just as you do, stand behind you, and encourage you to give birth to the baby God impregnated you with. Your visions are not meant for everyone to see. Sometimes, God uses our visions to bring light to toxic people. He uses our vision to show us who is there to support us and who is there to shine through us. Our supporters help us, the work with us, and encourage us to be great in our own walk. Those people who shine through us are only there for the publicity and the hype behind what YOU are doing.
The people you surround yourself with can make or break your life, and it doesn’t necessarily have to be your mate. It can be anyone, the enemy will use anyone in your life to shake up your life. He will use your mom, your best friend, your co-workers, your neighbors; he will use anyone that impacts your life in any way to tear you down. His main goal is to stop the process. Stop the labor, and you stop the birth.
Everything in your life can be going great. It can seem right in order, and seem right on time, then there goes the enemy. Here he comes with negative people, negative situations, trouble on your job, trouble in your house, in your family, here he comes with life. He wants you to feel so bottled down that you just stop and come to a standstill where you become paralyzed and immobile. You have to have a support system to replenish your spirt and keep you going when you want to give up.
When you have toxic people in your life that poison pours out over you and everything you do. They will begin to take over your life and as a mom and an entrepreneur, the way my mind is set up, everything I do, seems to be a business transaction. I do a quick rundown (quick review) and weigh in on the pros and cons of doing business and ask myself are we good?
How is this relationship going to impact my life, my kids’ life, and my business?
Are they going to be an asset or a liability?
Are they going to be additional revenue, or a debt?
What say you?
Who are you married to?